BDSM and kink
Curious about play with power, surrender or firmer touch? That's possible, if you want it and we discuss the boundaries together beforehand.
If it's new to you
If it's new to you, we start small, for example with a blindfold or being held firmly. You don't need to know exactly what you want yet; we can discover that along the way.
If you already have experience
Bring your own wishes and boundaries. We discuss beforehand what is and isn't possible, and I'll tell you honestly what works for me and where my boundaries are.
What it can be
BDSM is an umbrella term and can be many things: being held firmly, cuffed or tied up, a blindfold, giving or following orders, sensation play, or a role play where one leads and the other follows.
How we agree on it
- We always discuss it beforehand, by message or on the phone, and never for the first time in the middle of play.
- You choose what you want to try and what you don't. What hasn't been discussed doesn't happen.
- We agree on a safe word. We can also use colours, for example green for good, yellow for slower and red for stop.
- Even when you surrender, you have the final say.
- Afterwards we take time to come back down and talk, and the next day I'll send you a message, if you'd like.
What I don't do
If something doesn't suit me, for whatever reason, or doesn't feel right, I'll let you know. We both have to enjoy it.
- Nothing that restricts breathing or blood flow.
- No play that leaves you with injuries or marks.
- Nothing involving humiliation or insults.
- No photos or recordings.
If you've had difficult experiences
You can still be curious about surrender or play with power. We take it step by step, and if something doesn't feel right, we stop. See also When touch is difficult.
Also read Safety, health and discretion.