Frequently asked questions about a gigolo
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What is a gigolo?
A man you can book for company, a date or intimacy. Essentially a male escort for women.
Does an appointment always include sex?
No. You can also book me for just a date: dinner, a drink, an evening in town or cooking together. We discuss beforehand what you want and what you don't, and you can always change your mind during the appointment.
How does the first contact work?
You send me a message via WhatsApp, Telegram or email, and a nickname is enough. We first have a short call or video call, and then we plan a moment that suits us both.
Meeting on the same day usually isn't possible.
The details are on How an appointment works.
Can I see your face?
Yes. In the video call beforehand you'll see me, and afterwards you can still decide whether you want to meet. Photos where you can see my face clearly are available on request.
Where do we meet?
At your home, in a hotel, in a restaurant or bar, or on a walk in a park or forest. Anywhere in the Netherlands.
What does a gigolo cost?
That depends on how long we spend together. The prices are on the Rates page, with the minimum duration per region.
How do I pay, and what if I need to cancel?
We agree how you pay, usually in cash at the start of the appointment. If you need to cancel, let me know at least 24 hours in advance. More on the Rates page.
How discreet are you, and can I stay anonymous?
A nickname is enough, and you can use a separate phone number or email address. I don't tell anyone we're in contact, I don't take photos or recordings and I don't record names in my bookkeeping. We only discuss sensitive things if you want to. Only in case of immediate danger or a legal obligation can I not keep things confidential. More on the Safety page.
When does an appointment not go ahead?
I like to join you for a drink, but we don't use drugs. If you're drunk or under the influence when I arrive, I postpone the appointment and we pick a new date. I only meet women aged 21 and over.
I'm nervous or don't have much experience. Is that a problem?
No. You don't need to know or be able to do anything, and being a bit nervous is fine. We discuss beforehand what you want and start wherever you like.
Will anyone in a restaurant see that it's an appointment?
No. To the outside world we're two people having dinner together. We agree beforehand how we greet each other and what you say if you run into someone you know.
Do you use condoms?
I always use a condom for sex, and that's not negotiable. I bring condoms and lubricant, and if you're allergic to latex, let me know beforehand. I get tested regularly. A condom doesn't protect against every STI, so if you want to get tested yourself, you can go to your GP or the GGD (the municipal public health service).
What if it doesn't click, or something doesn't feel right?
If you have doubts after the first contact, you simply leave it. If it doesn't suit me, for whatever reason, I'll tell you honestly. If something doesn't feel right during the appointment, let me know, and if you want to stop, we stop, no explanation needed. In the first 20 minutes stopping costs nothing. What it means for the time after that is on the Rates page.
Will I hear from you after the date?
I ask beforehand whether I may send you a message after the date, the next day. I ask whether everything was as you hoped and whether you have any questions, and I like hearing how you experienced it. If you'd rather not get a message, that's possible.
Is this legal?
Yes. In the Netherlands sex work is legal, as long as it involves adults who choose it voluntarily. That applies to me, and to you when you make an appointment with me. You can find more explanation at the Dutch government (Rijksoverheid).
BDSM and kink: what's possible?
More than you might think: from being held firmly, cuffed or tied up to a role play where one leads and the other follows. We agree beforehand what does and doesn't happen, and we use a safe word. More on the BDSM page.