Safety, health and discretion

These are my fixed agreements. They apply to you and to me, every time we meet.

You can always stop

You can stop at any moment, also in the middle of an appointment. If something doesn't feel right, let me know, and if you want to stop, we stop, no explanation needed. If I don't feel safe or respected, I stop too.

Discretion

What we agree stays between us.

• A nickname is enough, and you can use a separate phone number or email address.
• I don't tell anyone that we are in contact or have met. If I run into you somewhere, I only say hello if you do first.
• We agree beforehand what you'd like me to wear, and that's what I come in. I don't take photos or recordings.

One exception: if someone is in immediate danger, or if the law requires it, I cannot keep things confidential.

Condoms

I always use a condom for sex, and that's not negotiable. I bring condoms and water-based lubricant. If you're allergic, for example to latex, let me know beforehand.

When I postpone an appointment

I like to join you for a drink, but we don't use drugs. If you're drunk or under the influence when I arrive, I postpone the appointment and we pick a new date, because then it's harder for you to say what you want. If I only notice during the appointment, I end it and you pay for the time up to that point. I only meet women aged 21 and over and may ask to see an ID. You can cover your name.

STI testing

I get tested regularly. A condom doesn't protect against every STI. If you want to get tested yourself, you can go to your GP or the GGD (the municipal public health service). More information is on sense.info.

Let someone know where you are

Let a friend know where you are and what time you'll be done.

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